April 2020: Forgiveness
Last month we talked about unconditional love and hopefully you can find it in your heart to begin practicing this new system of thinking and being. Sometimes, it’s hard to love unconditionally when you have unforgiveness in your heart. This month, let’s focus on forgiving.
**Note: You do not, unless you so desire, have to respond to this letter**
Monthly Focus: Letting Go of Offense
Key Verses: Mark 11:25; Ephesians 4:32
Memory Verse: 1 John 1:9
9 If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.
I don’t want this to be your typical lesson in forgiveness. No, we should really dive deep into our hearts, our traumas, our beliefs, our pasts, and REALLY learn about who (or what) we need to forgive. One of the main reasons we don’t forgive, is because we aren’t persuaded why we should forgive, and that’s what I want to start our discussion with today.
Why should we forgive? What are the benefits of forgiving? What if the other person/people involved aren’t sorry for what they did? These are all legitimate questions and concerns when one is considering letting go of an offense. However, the real power in understanding forgiveness is not in holding on to the painful memories and sequences of events that came against you. The real power is understanding that when you free others of their wrongs against you, you hold power over the situation.
I know that probably sounds crazy, but hear me out. Forgiveness has nothing to do with the other person and everything to do with you. Holding that hurt, anger, and hardness in your heart only hurts you, it doesn’t impact the other person/situation. The Bible says that a root of bitterness will spring up and trouble you. meaning that you holding on doesn’t hold them accountable. By keeping the memories fresh and replaying them, you torment yourself. You have to love yourself enough to let go. The true power in the
The bible says that before God formed the earth, He knew you. He knew you in your mother’s womb and stated that you are fearfully and wonderfully made. He called you an heir and a joint heir with Christ and stated that He knows the thoughts and plans He has for you. Those plans are thoughts to prosper you, to give you a hope and a future (Jeremiah 1:5, Psalm 139:14, Romans 8:17, Jeremiah 29:11). So, whether you know it or not, God created you and placed you here on earth with a purpose. You are not a mistake. You are not unworthy, you are not unforgivable, you are not unusable. You are not damaged or broken goods. You also do not have to wait until you get out. God can and wants to use you for the purpose which He created you. Do you know why you’re here? Do you know why God created you? Have you ever asked your Creator why you were created? Take a moment to pray on the matter and write down anything you hear the Lord saying, any thoughts that come to mind, or anything worth remembering.
We know why our Lord and Savior was born. Take some time in prayer and studying of the scriptures to discover why you’re here. It is my belief that we are all somewhere on our purpose journeys. It is quite possible to be in the car, headed down a road, and not know the name of the street or understand the process needed for the journey ahead. This month, let’s get with God and see what He would have for us!
Here are some noteworthy verses for your learning and reflection.
For unto us a child is born, unto us a son is given: and the government shall be upon his shoulder: and his name shall be called Wonderful, Counselor, The mighty God, The everlasting Father, The Prince of Peace.
She will give birth to a son, and you are to give him the name Jesus, because he will save his people from their sins.
And she brought forth her firstborn son, and wrapped him in swaddling clothes, and laid him in a manger; because there was no room for them in the inn.
The Word became flesh and made his dwelling among us. We have seen his glory, the glory of the one and only Son, who came from the Father, full of grace and truth.
But when the set time had fully come, God sent his Son, born of a woman, born under the law, 5 to redeem those under the law, that we might receive adoption to sonship.